Bitching and Snitching

A great debate; what's the difference between bitching and snitching? Is one better than the other? Who is allowed to bitch or snitch at certain times about certain people?

Well according to the Urban dictionary, bitching has 11 definitions. The number one being: excessive complaining. To see the others click here: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bitching.

But is bitching really excessive complaining? Sometimes but not always so.

I find bitching is the verbal expression of being a bitch, which deep down everyone is and everybody does. Bitching to me is complaining (usually excessively) about a certain someone. That certain someone could be a bitchy person themselves (so clearly they deserve it) or just plain old irritating (they definately deserve it). It's also borderline gossiping.

But do they?

Everyone's annoying sometimes, everyone has a bad hair day or just really shouldn't have worn that and so maybe they do deserve it. After all if every dishes and everyone recieves then at the end of the day, we're all back where we started.

Although living with that means that you can't bitch about being bitched/gossiped about (which I personally have no issue with, to me feedback from others bitching about me can be extremely amusing). It also means you may fall victim to excessive overzealous bitching/gossiping, which dare I say, may even fall into the category of bullying.



Take 'Mean Girls' for example. I'm sure some would love to be Cady (Lindsay Lohan's character) at the end of the day, but would you want to be here when she's the most despised girl at the school? All because of bitching that got out of hand....


Now, if you have a reliable bitching partner. Someone who you have a strong reciprocal bitching relationship with, then most of the time you shouldn't have any problems. I personally have an excellent friend, lets call her B. I bitch/gossip to B about everyone and everything, and in return B bitches/gossips back to me.


Bitching however is an issue if it gets out of hand. If this little snippet of frustration or just sheer bitchiness reaches the subject, then all hell can break lose. However if executed properly, bitching/gossiping can only be beneficial, mainly to you.

Snitch: "a person who rats people out or tells on them". (Urban dictionary: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snitch)

Now bitching I can understand, empathise and relate to. But my heart holds no sacred place for the act of snitching.

Snitching is desperate, it's immature and wrong, especially if you're passing on confidential information (eg. you're telling something which someone told you in confidence).

Snitching isn't telling someone's parents if they're in real trouble or reporting a crime to the police.

It's pointless, attention seeking nonsense. It's telling on someone, for something that doesn't really matter.

So yes, there is a very big difference between bitching and snitching. Bitching (when done properly) is not nearly as bad as snitching. Snitching is immeasurably wrong, don't doubt that.

Bitching is definately above snitching in the real world of right and wrong. Maybe in theory snitching is being 'honest', but if you've ever been tattled on, or been the tattler you'll know it's much much worse than a bit of idle gossip.

Some may think I'm a bitch, but to me; snitching is just plain bitchy (the nasty sort).

Then again, aren't we all?